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Keeping Our Daughter’s Secrets

Posted on: April 21, 2010

               A corollary to respecting your daughter’s
               privacy is respecting her confidence. When your
               daughter shares her innermost thoughts, fears,
               dreams, or desires, make sure that you resist
               with all of your strength to share them with
               others without asking her first.  If you do, your
               daughter will feel betrayed and you will be cut
               out of a lot of conversations and confidences in
               This is particularly true when our daughters
               are very young. Some of the things that may
               come out of their mouths are so cute and
               precious that you will want to share to with your
               mother or her father, and so on.
               By doing so, you run the risk of embarrassing
               her in front of others, and this will ruin your
               relations with them. The wonderful cute thing
               that you want to brag about can make her feel
               foolish and immature in front of others. And this
               is devastating to her self-esteem.
               In sum, mothers may be mesmerized by our
               daughter’s wonderful and cute process of
               growing up. But for our daughter, this time is
               perplexing, and downright humiliating.
               So, don’t humiliate your daughter by telling
               anyone else about what she told you in
               confidence. Keep it to yourself, and smile with
               yourself when you’re alone.
               Treat your daughter’s confidences as you
               would expect a peer to treat yours. Never
               embarrass her in front of others. By respecting
               her secrets, you are respecting her and you are
               showing her and that she is worthy of respect.
               ~ Irene


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Irene S. Roth, Freelance Writer for Teens, Tweens, and Kids

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