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Guest Blog By LM Preston

Posted on: November 22, 2010

       How to Value Yourself
       LM Preston
        
        Being a teen in love can be one of the most
        addictive things in the world. Unfortunately,
        nothing ever changes-ever. There’s always going
        to be a girl who desperately wants to hold her
        boyfriend’s attention and a boy who desperately
        wants to hold a girl’s love. How does this lay
        out badly in teen relationships-you tell me.
       
        You know a lot of parents act like what their
        ids are doing these days are new. But the same
        old thing happens today that happened when I was
        a kid. Only difference is, today you see those
        things on TV-like shows about teen moms or kids
        who are dating a person who is just a bad choice
        for them. Everyone on TV sees the train wreck but
        in real life it’s not so easy to see. Also, most
        people admit they know it’s going to wreck, they
        just can’t get off the train. 
        
        LET ME PREFACE THIS TO SAY not all girls or
        boys have these issues, but a lot either know
        someone who does, or watches a TV show with
        someone who does. 
        
        WHAT DO GIRLS DO TO HOLD ON TO MR. HOTTIE
        BOYFRIEND
        
        Most times, teen girls try to hold onto their
        boyfriend or boys by having sex even getting
        pregnant on purpose or stalking them. Oh, don’t
        act so shocked. This has been going on forever.
        It’s even in the history books believe it or not.
       
        Now, what does this have to do with VALUE OF
        SELF? A lot! Any one, girl or boy, should not
        allow themselves to be convinced, persuaded,
        bullied, abused by, manipulated to try drugs or
        peer pressured into believing that sharing their
        body with someone else is ‘no big deal’. It is a
        big deal, because boys move on, girls can get
        pregnant, girls can get a reputation as an ‘easy’
        lay and girls typically are emotionally driven to
        start punishing themselves when they find that
        things don’t work out like in the fairytales. 
        
        
        WHAT DO BOYS DO TO HOLD ON TO MS. HOTSTUFF
        GIRLFRIEND
        
        Funny thing is, boys have feelings too! Sure,
        they are taught to suppress them, but they cry,
        they hurt, they love deeply and they obsess over
        girls like girls obsess over them. Guys do the
        stalking thing, blow p in anger, and try to
        manipulate girls, just like girls do guys.
       
        Guys also need to value self. Focussing on
        keeping his goals clear, speaking up to a girl to
        ‘stop’ even though he may hurt her feelings is
        sometimes better than leading the girl on. Girls
        can be just as manipulative, pushy, persuasive to
        boys to engage in sex, drugs, or to set boys up
        by getting pregnant in order to hold onto them.
        Also, girls may try to manipulate all of a boy’s
        time and take him away from goals, family, or
        friends who are important to him how can a girl
        possibly do this? By using that boys desire for
        sex, love or desire to be with her to her
        advantage. 
        
        BUT GIRLS AND BOYS ARE DIFFERENT AREN’T THEY? 
        
        Yes, in some ways, but in all the ways that
        make us human they are not. That means, whether
        you are a boy or girl, you have the right to say
        ‘NO!’ and should value your body, love for self,
        and determination to stay true to yourself in all
        things. Only those that truly care about you,
        aren’t trying to hurt you, or aren’t trying to
        lead you down a path that could negatively alter
        your life has the right to effect the inner you.
        
        WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU’VE MADE A BIG MISTAKE
        
        Forgive yourself. Improve yourself. Love
        yourself. No matter what we do in life, we are
        here to grow. To learn from our mistakes. Making
        them is acceptable, learning from them is
        important. Loving yourself in spite of the fact
        that   hey guess what? You’re human, is okay. And
        if you need someone to talk to pick someone that
        truly wants to help you. Follow your gut, and you
        will know the right person, the right time, to
        approach someone with your questions.
        By LM Preston, author of THE PACK and Explorer X-
        Alpha.

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